A man and a woman are different in nature. Most men spend most of their time trying to make a woman obsesssed and ‘hynoptized’ by placing her on a pesdestral, demostrated by the overhyped, unnecessary and undeserved gestures that he feels only he can do due to finance and admiration, enabling him to execute his feelings of his like and love for the woman.
He makes his happiness dependent on a woman, forgetting that because she is different from him and is unable to fully grasp the type of man he is unless she is taught, she may take a while to understand him. The man “razzled dazzled” by the woman, feeling that he has struck gold and that his happiness is complete, confuses affection with love and suffocates the woman, lacking the understanding and the sense to know that a man, a true to the core man doesn’t behave in such a manner as to put a woman above himself and others.
She is different but equal and unable to see this, he traps himself in a lifetime of confusion and irritation from been disrespected, used and insulted. The woman who has now seen nothing but a slave doing her every whim and getting her everything-the world, now feels like a master who can click her fingers whenever she needs anything. Why oh why she ask herself, should she be so stupid enough to give the slave what he wants and love him when she can get anything she wants? If she did, he would no longer be a slave.
Then a realization hits her and deliverance from any guilt that she may be feeling and burying from using the man for selfish means is released as she understands that she cannot love such a man because she doesn’t see a man. She is blinded from his attempts to show manhood yet awake to the fact that the man’s display of love of acquiring her, like she can be bought like a piece of meat, is not manhood. She leaves or tolerates him with disrespect or if she is not in a relationship with him, keep him chasing.
Love that beautiful and wonderful essence that is pure, true and elevates is pushed aside and replaced with hate if not irritation. The man starts to attempt to rectify his mistakes or show difference in behaviour but this translates to indesciveness and inconsistency. The woman’s negative reactions brings about the change and the man tries to change the way he serves not yet understanding that she doesn’t want to be served but led.
For although she asks for the world, she has to know why she is given anything and if she is truly deserving of such expressive treatments. She has to feel like she has passed some manly test to receive her reward happily, saying and meaning it heartedly, that “this is mine.” Although women, the beautiful, devious, manipulative, yet nuturing, affectionate, ego boosters that they are, put a man through many tests, no matter how hard and well laid out it may be, it can be passed with manhood.
Male energy is all that is needed for any diabolical scheme and plots from feminine demise. Just like too much sweets will rotten the teeth as well as destroy the gums, affection from a man has to be given in bits and long enough to be appreciated. It is not a crime or lame to etch into the skull, the memory, that too much of anything is bad. Though the woman will ‘kick and scream’ for more sweets as a form of test to see what her man will do and whether she will be rewarded for her childish, immature behaviour, it is up to the man to say no, correcting her and letting her know, reassuring her that he is a man and will not be dominated by female energy because being a female, although its in his DNA because of his mother is not his nature.
By this unaffected and strong display of character the woman accepts and submits to his leadership and his particular gestures of his personality and individuality. She feels safe knowing that she no longer has to restrain and hide her feminine ways under an icy and almost unexplained, confusing attitude created as an attempt to hide her emotional nature from hurt and pain. Most importantly she feels no insinuation and mannerism that she is a possession or something to be reached or obtained. A sense of partnership devours her fears and curisosity from uncertainty.
In the end, although the attempting square is in no way physically hurting his subject of desire, psychologically she is bored, unfulfilled and influenced to manipulate the situation to see just how far a man would go with his winning and dining, his gifts and sudden expectations for a stranger. She waits as she manipulates as respect for him decreases for the man to use his words notoriously and smoothly to get to know who he is dealing with. After all she is a woman and women enjoy and delight in the fine art of communication. If he does know her and has been with her for a while, she manipulates the situation mostly to teach him a lesson.
In the end a man who lets a woman be and treats her on equal terms but differently due to the fact that she is different in nature, is the one that can co-exist together and destroy the resentments and boredom in his relationship.
The same happens in business where to close a deal, gifts upon gifts are given to impress and show eagerness to represent a person, skilled and wanted. Eventually the person ends up going to the business that was more truthful, real to his needs and wasn’t all about money. Relationship is like a business where it is assigned by nature for a man, physical, one minded and more logical first, is leader and the woman, emotional, multi-thinking and tasking and more nuturing first, is a manager.
To lead such a bussiness and partnership the man must and be capable to use his time and development with an ambitious mind to turn his business into an empire, a success that enables him to relax deservingly personally and financially. His woman, razzled dazzled by her man’s ambition and determination to elevate himself and her, will be more than willing to help and more willing to push herself and do what it takes, submitting so that he is able to lead as she manages.
Most men mean well with their outlandish antics and find it hard not to do too much, too soon but ending up like most, learning the harsh, violent and radical effects that teaches them the hard, merciless lessons, that doing too much will backfire in hurtful ways. Square players although dipped and concentrated in the game but ignoring some lessons of the game exercised by not fully trusting the game with its rules, principles and unwritten laws to abide by it, end up doing too much. The result is the showing of simpish and lame behaviour that could cause all women to harden and generalize that all men are the same.
Ultimately it is not about the woman and or what she has but about a man’s selfish needs to acquire something in a selfish and uncreative way. For although he is a ‘hunter’ showing that he goes after what he wants, the ‘prey’, there are effective strategies. Even a deer will run away by too much noise, sensing the eagerness and desperation of the hunter. A woman is more smitten by words than materials and more stimulated by well thought out, no matter how small, gestures that shows a man’s ability to get through to her mind and her harden gatetway to her heart with such minimal display of affection but large and meaningful intent. He shows that he is serious with minimal yet natural and heart felt execution.
A man can tire himself out chasing and chasing, keeping her running and running cause the chase is not just in the approach but in displays after displays of wasted time without words–that which she is truly smitten by. It is said that time is money, these squares with hearts of gold, but projecting clay and its properties of softness would be bankrupted.
A man’s attention should be on himself and business, striving to self improve. This causes a lot of gravitational pull, the attraction that he needs to get a woman or women willing to manage for him as he leads. Her attentiveness to him will come with a wonderous and curious eyes to adapt to the mystery and recurring thoughts of who he is and certainty that indeed he will be successful by the way he invests his time in his purpose. He doesn’t have to do much or too much but focus on himself and mission. Too much of anything is bad and when men stop chasing, they can rest and feel rejuvenated by this universal truth.