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The Reset Button: Get Ready for the New Year, 2011

Reset Button

People do not really take the new year seriously and to most it is just another day. The fact is there will never, ever be a 2010 again and the world will continue to rotate, leaving the old to reveal the new. Tomorrow is not guaranteed, it is unknown and always reveals something new. Tomorrow makes us a day older than yesterday! Profoundly speaking, we are older and ‘born’ everyday.

Today is a new day like tomorrow will be the new day, leaving today old. This is why the present is a gift. Each second, minute, hour, day and year can never be reclaimed. Everything is always new. 2011 will be a new, different and unpredictable (like any other year) year. How it turns out is determined by freewill (choices).

Definition of the word New according to Oxford Dictionary is as follows:

–of recent origin or arrival.

We will be arriving into a new year. It will be a new beginning and a new start to many projects and affirmations. Life is a journey and after the journey through 2010, we are arriving to the next journey of developments, revelations, elevation, proclammations and affirmations created and lived as the new days of 2011 arrives. Get ready for the new!

— made, discovered, acquired, or experienced recently or now for the first time.

There is still a lot to learn, discover, gain, and accomplish. Coming forth to a new year and a new day will allow you to note the time and day of self discovery and accomplishments. 2010 will not be the same as 2011. You can change! Get ready for the new!

— in original condition, not worn or used.

Do not enter a new day, a new year, worn out. It is a journey! Maintain strength, persistence, determination, optimism, self improvement and development. Stay refreshed as the present day bring forth new days. Get ready for the new!

— renewed or reformed.

It doesn’t matter what mistakes you have made as long as you have learned from them. The lessons makes it an experience. Do not be your own obstacle and stagnancy, for there is always a chance to be a new person-a better you. We are all like a work of art which our mistakes, revelations, failures and losses will mold us to be one of a kind because we are one of a kind. Each art is not the same, even though like twins, they seem similar. It comes down to choice!

Either choose to suffer or be elevated. Either choose to be better or complain and compare. Make those new year’s resolution if you must, it helps focus the mind. It helps in the preparation of a new year and a new day of that year. Regardless of what you do, a new day dawns. Get ready for the new!

Definition of the word Year according to Oxford Dictionary:

— the time taken by the earth to revolve once round the sun, 365 days, 5 hours, 48 minutes , and 46 seconds in length.

As you already know, for new days to come, portrayed and illustrated by the rising and falling of the sun (sunrise and sunset) as the earth rotates on its axis, making some parts of the world to have sunlight (sunrise) and others to be in the shade (night-sunset), it takes the earth 365 (366 with leap year) to make a complete circle around the sun.

That is a big deal! Especially if the earth can, at anytime, be knocked out of orbit. Seeing each year, should be celebrated and preparation should be made as such. There is a sense of livelihood to know and feel the earth begin its journey around the sun again; spinning on its axis to reveal new days of it’s new journey. Just like you have a birth day, the world, our planet, is a year older.

The new year should be seen as a reset button, a new change to start from the 1st day of the first month, motivated to be something new, somebody different and somebody elevated. Only you, a somebody, can make other bodies see a nobody. Get ready for the new year!

As you enter the new year and make those new year resolutions, ask and assess yourself as to what type of person you were, are and going to be. Ella Wheeler Wilcox puts it best in her poem ‘Which are You?’

Which are You?

THERE are two kinds of people on earth to-day;
Just two kinds of people, no more, I say.

Not the sinner and saint, for it’s well understood,
The good are half bad, and the bad are half good.

Not the rich and the poor, for to rate a man’s wealth,
You must first know the state of his conscience and health.

Not the humble and proud, for in life’s little span,
Who puts on vain airs, is not counted a man.

Not the happy and sad, for the swift flying years
Bring each man his laughter and each man his tears.

No; the two kinds of people on earth I mean,
Are the people who lift, and the people who lean.

Wherever you go, you will find the earth’s masses,
Are always divided in just these two classes.

And oddly enough, you will find too, I ween,
There’s only one lifter to twenty who lean.

In which class are you? Are you easing the load,
Of overtaxed lifters, who toil down the road?

Or are you a leaner, who lets others share
Your portion of labor, and worry and care?



A Feminine Touch: Heather Nikole

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BOTG: What do you think of the feminist movement?

HN: I think it can be an empowering thing, but at the same time all that “I can do everything a man does” attitude can and does backfire in dating and a relationship. Me personally I don’t want to play both roles, its too much work. I’d rather just be the woman taking care of her business as a woman.

BOTG: What do you think of the interaction between men and women today?

HN: I personally feel there’s no understanding, morals or communication. Women aren’t being real with what they want because they are afraid of the rejection and men are taking what they can get and moving right along. Theres so many women fine being the other woman it makes it overly easy for there to be infidelity.

BOTG: What qualities do you think it takes a man to be a man and a woman to be a woman?

HN: I think in both there has to be some moral to be a real man or woman. If you have no standards and you just live life then your living as a child. If you cant commit to anything such as a job or career, another person, or family you can’t live up to your full potential. Your living with no structure and that isn’t what being a man or woman is about.

BOTG: What do you think are the roles of men and women in a relationship or marriage?

HN: I was raised that the man is the provider, he gives, that’s his make up, even physically. He is the protector and the person that leads the relationship to be its best. A woman is the nurturer, she gives life and caters to her family. She’s the back bone, the supporter, the up-lifter when you fall.

BOTG: Why do you think a lot of women (especially black women) are single?

HN: Honestly,and I’m sure I’ll hear about this, but we don’t know when to shut up! (laughs) I’m not saying be a pushover by no means, but not everything is worth arguing over. I’m speaking from my own experiences. Pick and choose your battles and when its over let it be. Don’t harp on a matter already done. Let him show you what’s up. You say a lot more with silence than you ever can with speaking.

BOTG: Why are women so eager to get married? Would you say marriage changes anything?

HN: I cant speak for every woman, they all have their own reasons. But for me marriage is forever. I only plan on doing it once, because once I do I’m in it literally for better or worse. He’s the man that I want to be with forever. And I feel marriage solidifies that, there’s no more breaking up over dumb things and getting back together, we are in it together. It wont be perfect, but you will get over the small things much easier knowing that its not that easy to just walk away. It’s a deeper bond than just being “boyfriend” and “girlfriend”.

BOTG: If you had the power to change the interaction between men and women what would it be?

HN: The honesty level would be a must. Guys would get a lot less “crazy” women and women would be a lot less disappointed. Fellas, if a relationship is not what you want, quit telling these chicks it is. Say what’s real. And women quit trying to make every guy “the one”. If your in a new relationship every other month you will never get anywhere.

BOTG: What message would you give to a man that is about to approach you?

HN: Be confident and come respectfully, even if I decline, because either way I’m flattered by the gesture alone.

BOTG: Have you ever said no to a man when he approached and then changed your mind? If so why, what changed?

HN: Yes, I have and it was all based on the setting. The first time they approached me just wasn’t a place that I would give my number out at. But the second encounter was much more chill and comfortable so it was easier to be ok with giving it a chance.

BOTG: Give your definition of a nice guy.

HN: A nice guy has such a bad rep. (laughs) Poor thing, it has been black listed. They always say “Girls dont like nice guys” but in reality its what you need. He’s the caring one, the empathizing one who is going to be more aware of his actions and how they effect you. But they can be looked at as “push-overs” and NO woman really wants a push-over.

BOTG: What do you think of a man that does anything you want?

HN: Push-overs are boring and they won’t keep my interest. Tell me no sometimes, its ok. I love a man that is going to cater to my needs, but everything I want is always optional. For example, do I need him to be supportive, caring, understanding and giving yes. But do I need him to buy me brand new Gucci bags every month, agree with my every word and spend all his free time with me, no I may want it at times but it not healthy to be a slave to someone.

BOTG: Give your definition of a thug and why women love thugs.

HN: “Thugs” give that vision of strength. Makes you think that they are tough and can protect you. And most women find that sexy. But depending on what type of “thug” you are it could be a disaster waiting to happen. You have thugs that are all about their money, some are womanizers, some are pump faking and just using the image. I just want a man that isn’t afraid to be a good man.

BOTG: In a relationship what do you bring to the table?

HN: I’m dedicated, smart, loyal, loving, catering, supportive, I try to be as understanding as possible and I’m a rider for my man. I’ll give my all in a relationship.

BOTG: How important is sex in a relationship?

HN: Sex is very important. It’s a bonding experience. Sex has to be there often and satisfying. You have to care about the sex in a relationship. Couples break up all the time over it.

BOTG: Would you leave a man or your husband if the sex wasn’t good?

HN: I would leave my man because at the end of the day he wouldnt be able to satisfy me and he would never make it to being my husband with bad sex.

BOTG: What would make you go the extra mile for your man?

HN: Genuine love! When you truly are IN love and care for someone there’s nothing I won’t do. My love for them is strictly based on him and nothing else. Not what he has, does for a living, nothing, just because he’s him.

BOTG: Why do women compete with each other so much? (Ever heard of unity?)

HN: Men compete all the time as well. Guys just do it more subtle.(laughs) Women will dress or act a certain way where as a man will buy a certain car or use their social status. And besides there’s nothing wrong with a little competition, keeps you on your toes.(laughs)

BOTG: It is said that black women are the ones with the most attitude what are your opinions on this? Also what do you think are the reasons behind the attitude if you believe this to be true?

HN: Black women do have a certain “spunk” about them. (laughs) But I mean every race of women have their stigmas, black women just really deal with a lot more of shit from our “men”. So I can understand the bitterness and attitude. It isn’t easy being a black woman.

BOTG: What would make you feel like you are in a boring relationship?

HN: When it becomes a chore rather than quality time. You have to keep the romance, never get too comfortable in how “it is” because it will become how it “was”.

BOTG: What is the most important thing you look for in a man?

HN: Consistency and being upfront. I don’t care for unneeded surprises. I appreciate the option to deal with something or not, rather then investing time in something/someone I can’t get back and end up wishing I could.

BOTG: In a man’s dressing what is the most important thing you look at?

HN: I hate anything dirty or unkempt. I take pride in looking presentable. I don’t care if he just has basketball shorts and a tshirt on, it just better be clean and unwrinkled.

BOTG: How do you signal to a man to approach you?

HN: Eye contact.

BOTG: How do you recognize confidence in a man? I mean what makes you say “yeah he has confidence”?

HN: He’s sure about who he is. He isn’t concerned with what his boys have to say and can walk in a room and you feel his presence.

BOTG: What message(s) would you give to every man out there about women?

HN: Don’t make potentially permanent decisions over temporary feelings. If you have a good woman hold her down and ride for her just as she does for you. And don’t let anyone or thing come between that. Good women ARE rare.

BOTG: Describe your best features.

HN: I love my eyes and my body shape.

BOTG: What do you think of men trying to empower other men to be leaders in their relationships?

HN: I think it isn’t enough of that. Why not encourage another man to step up? Especially when there are a lot of guys out here who were never taught to “be a man”.

BOTG: What do you do now?

HN: Event planning.

BOTG: What are your future plans?

HN: I intend on being a business owner by opening my own cupcake shop.

BOTG: Good luck and Thank you.


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Reminder, its all about Respect

A level of respect enables you to perform at a higher level, automatically. You may be asking why, its simple, you are not hating. Without hate, there is nothing holding you back from working with someone or executing more in performance effectively. With respect comes the meaning of honor and loyalty while entering the realm of strategy and power the higher you go. Definitely exercise respect and go high!

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Person of the Year: Mark Zuckerberg

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It was close. The person of the year in my opinion was between Mark Zuckerberg creator of Facebook, Julian Assange creator of Wikileak and Steve Jobs co-creator of Apple. On one hand a lot of people (if not the whole world) has become aware of government secrets, tactics and strategy with the help of Julian Assange. A lot of people now have Ipods, Ipad and Iphones with the help of Steve Jobs. On the other hand lonliness, connection and reconnections have been made with the help of Mark Zuckerberg. Oh yes, it was close!

As close as it was, the person of the year has to go to Mark Zuckerberg. Facebook has allowed people to participate and reconnect with old friends and family. Wikileak, as brillant of a job its doing to bring awareness, allows no public participation or influence. Although there is customer’s participation in apple’s productions, it still uses facebook functions and applications to largely build connection with users of the I-machines. Mark Zuckerberg has allowed 2 Billion out of 6.9 billion people in the world to feel a since of belonging through active and for many, meaningful associations. Many relationships and invitations has taken place with the help of facebook.

It’s a funny comparison because one of facebook’s biggest flaw is privacy but Wikileak’s greatest attribute is exposing privacy content. One of apple’s biggest flaw is said that products fail to be user friendly, which is improving. Wikileak and facebook do not have this problem. Nevertheless, it means a lot more to people if they can have control of the information and access to whatever they want. This is proven by 700 000 people joining facebook every day.

Julian Assange
Julian Assange creator of Wikileak

Steve Jobs
Steve Jobs co-creator and now owner of apples

Let’s take a look at the man and the success of the facebook:

Person of the year picture

—-5’8 and 26 years old at the time of this writing.
—- Has three sisters.
—- At 12 years old he created a network for the family home called Zucknet; this was at a time when networks didn’t come in a box. He also wrote computer games.
—- He once rigged one of his sister’s computer to announce that it was going to self destruct. The computer even did the count down, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. It was done to fulfill a bet he made with his elder sister.
—- He took interest and started studying ancient languages and fensing in High school (secondary school).
—- Was offered around a million dollars at a young age for co-writing with a classmate a music recommendation program called Synapse by Microsoft and AOL. But he refused it to continue Harvard.
—- Was offered a billion dollar by google to take facebook off his hands. He declined.
—- He put $100 million of his personal facebook equity to help Newark school system (He isn’t from Newark but highly believes in education).
—- Before facebook, he had projects like ‘The facebook’ (the ‘The’ part later went) and Facemash.
—- Started facebook as a way for people on college campuses to communicate with and keep track of one another.
—- He is red-green colour blind: there are a lot of colours he can’t see, but he sees blue. Facebook is the colour blue.
—- Roomates on campus at Harvard were Dustin Moskovitz and Sean Parker, co-founder of Napster.

Dustin Moskovitz
Dustin Moskovitz

Sean Parker
Sean Parker

—- Has a girlfriend, Priscilla Chan. They live together.
—- Was estimated by Forbes to be $6.9 billion, putting him ahead of his neighbour Steve Jobs (creator of apple).
—- If Facebook was a country it would be the third largest behind China and India.
—- Zuckerberg is a billionaire six times over.
—- 70% of Facebook users live outside US.
—- 81% of American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers has an increase in divorce cases involving social networking; 66% cite facebook as the primary source for online divorce evidence.
—- His biggest motto, “Eliminating desire for all that doesn’t really matter.”

Brotherhood of the Game, salutes you.

Anh Vu

Anh Vu

Anh Vu keeps it 100, representing well for all men out there. She seems like a woman who will not follow her female friend’s advice and suggestions about men without ASSESSING (what most women don’t do) it first.

A lot of women are single, in my opinion because of the feministic movement way of seeing things and not by what they feel is right but by what they feel they are suppose to do even if it is wrong. Most women still don’t know the difference between Independence and Self Reliance which is a sadden, head shaking sight to see as the ignorance of this is acted out. Men have to do their part and can help these women by becoming men through manly ways and NOT by adjusting to the feminism movement perspective. Anh Vu seems to be a woman who gets it.

Anhsworld (Blog)

Message of the Week

Persons in power should be very careful of how they deal with a man who cares nothing for sensual pleasure, nothing for riches, nothing for comfort or praise or promotion, but is simply determined to do what he believes to be right. He is a dangerous and uncomfortable enemy, because his body, which you can always conquer, gives you so little purchase on his soul.~Gilbert Murray

Entering a new year (2011)


As we near the end of 2010 many people would be recapping on what went on through the year, many would be too busy celebrating the end of it to care, and others will focus on the now and not ‘dwelling’ in the past. One thing is for sure, a lot of people are not satisfied with the current situation that they are in right now. Most people would conclude that 2010 could have been better just like any other year before, suffering from a feeling of worthlessness from a sense of lack of accomplishment.

Although happiness is a state of mind, most people dwell and feed depression and gloom. A lot of people hide behind smiles and laughter when in fact they feel alone and unaccomplished. As we get older it seems that many people have a sense and feeling of unaccomplishment that far outweighs what they’ve done and the lessons they have learnt. To most if not all, accomplishment means having money and the finer things in life. The fact that something was created and lessons were learnt is overlooked due to the fact that it doesn’t bring paper with a picture of a head and numbers on it. Money; the colored paper that many have died and fought for, is made from trees which gives us oxygen. The trees are cut down to keep it in circulation. All this is done to earn a living. The irony is laughable.


To have a better life you’ll have to realize how powerful the mind is.You have to realize and understand to overstand why we are so different from the other animals. Happiness and success are states of the mind. When a person goes into a state, there is always something to gain from it. Sleep is a state that brings forth dreams, messages and knowledge. State of happiness (and success) is one that will bring forth maintenance (money, things of value, results) of the state. In the Dhammapada, Buddha said:

Mind is the forerunner of all (evil) conditions.
Mind is the chief, and they are mind-made.
If, with an impure mind, one speaks or acts,
Then suffering follows one.

Even as the cart wheel follows the hoof of the ox.
Mind is the forerunner of all (good) conditions.
Mind is the cheif, and they are mind-made.
If, with a pure mind, one speaks or acts,
Then happiness follows one
Like a never-departing shadow.


In the Science of Getting Rich by Wallace D Wattles, pg 21, chapter 5, he beautifully says:

YOU MUST GET RID OF THE LAST VESTIGE OF THE OLD IDEA that there is a Deity whose will it is that you should be poor or whose purposes may be served by keeping you in poverty.

The intelligent substance which is all, and in all, and which lives in all and lives in you, is a consciously living substance. Being a consciously living substance, it must have the nature and inherent desire of every living intelligence for increase of life. Every living thing must continually seek for the enlargement of its life, because life, in the mere act of living, must increase itself.

The Science Of Getting Rich
The Science Of Getting Rich

In The Book of Five Rings, Miyamoto Musashi states, in the best possible way how life is about strategy. One who knows the Way of strategy is one who will live a happy, successful and fulfilled life. Pg 3 states:

Strategy is the craft of the warrior. Commanders must enact the craft, and troopers should know this Way. There is no warrior in the world today who really understands the Way of strategy.
There are various Ways. There is the Way of salvation by the law of Buddha, the Way of Confucius governing the Way of learning, the Way of healing as a doctor, as a poet teaching the Way of Waka, tea, archery, and many arts and skills. Each man practices as he feels

It is said the warrior’s is the twofold Way of pen and sword, and he should have a taste for both Ways. Even if a man has no natural ability he can be a warrior by sticking assiduously to both divisions of the Way. Generally speaking, the Way of the warrior is resolute acceptance of death. Although not only warriors but priests, women, peasants and lowlier folk have been known to die readily in the cause of duty or out of shame, this is a different thing. The warrior is different in that studying the Way of strategy is based on overcoming
men (and things).

The Book of Five Rings
The Book of Five Rings

Life is about your thought process. Procastination, planning, hesitation are all creation of the mind, just like instigation, development and motion. Where you are now is done by the choices you made. Recession played a big part in 2010, resulting in people’s lifestyle and plans been changed. Your happiness shouldn’t be dependent on money or external things. It should be dependent on the journey of self discovery. It should be dependent on the process of first finding yourself to know yourself, something money or materials can never do. We are entering another year. Do not dwell on what you think you are not or where you think you haven’t been, simply follow on course until you are successful, doing it all in a STATE (not discovery) of happiness.

Dhammadapa, The Science Of Gtting Rich and The Book Of Five Rings