A moment with John “Rosebudd Bitterdose” Dickson

First of all thank you for doing this interview and congratulations on getting your doing your Masters.

BOTG: How long were you a pimp for?

JD: I turned out when I was 20 and stopped PimPin 25 years later

BOTG: It seems that people have a largely wide misconception about Pimps so set the record straight, what is a Pimp?

JD: A PimP is a man that has left what people think behind him and has began a trip that only he can navigate. Many people think PimPs only get women’s money, but the truth of the matter is, a hoe needs a PimP for many reasons and one of them is a PimP’s imagination. He makes up in his mind a lot things that could happen on that track and he warns that hoe about it. This thing may not happen, but simply because you were made aware of it as a hoe, you look out for things that ‘could’ happen. A hoe is out getting money and sometimes their minds are so on getting it, they get careless. PimPs watch out for all recklessness.

BOTG: What makes a man a certified Pimp?

JD: What makes you a PimP is having boundaries and principles that under no circumstance will you violate.

BOTG: When did you know that you were able to attract women?

A moment with Lewis H Williams III

BOTG: What makes you a certified relationship advisor?

LHW: Never said I was. I just give sound advice based on positive outcome and logic in order to save someone from stress and headaches based on bad decisions.

BOTG:When did you know that you were able to advice or attract women?

LHW: I just started a blog and when I got into video blogging people agreed and enjoyed what I said. Never targeted women they are just faster to support the truth then most men.

BOTG: What made you want to teach or spit game?

LHW: Just had a feeling about somethings that didn’t seem normal to me so I spoke it out loud and other people agreed with me.

BOTG: What do you think of the interaction of men and women today?

LHW:Lies and deceit with no truth or honesty.

BOTG:When approaching a woman, what is the first thing a man must do?

LHW: Extend his hand and tell her his name. Approaching a woman ain’t rocket science you jus gotta have a warming swag and smell good.

BOTG: Upon approaching a woman, what is the first thing you usually say?

LHW: Depends on how many drinks I had. After 3 drinks I’m good for saying “Aye, First off I don’t want any number from you, but you put that on for attention so I came to give you attention and buy you a drink, but imam def make sure you got my # if you ever get time feel free to use it.

BOTG: Give your definition of a nice guy.

A moment with Tazz Daddy

BOTG: What influenced you to get on radio and to start your company Tazz Daddy Enterprises?

TD: I started in radio at 9 years old, making me the youngest brother in the history of the business to get a job in radio. I fell in love with communicating with people. Entertaining people! As I grew in grace and popularity, I began to understand that I had a responsibility to awaken people to a greater purpose of responsibility and community. I don’t preach at people, but I tell them the truth. If they can’t deal with it, that’s something that they have to work out internally.

As far as the business goes, I’ve never been one to deal with working for someone else for very long. I believe in entrepreneurship on all levels. There is no reason why anyone especially in a country as free as ours should have to work for someone else. Instead of talking about it I live it each and every day. The job I have is a job choice, not a job of necessity. It also adds to my long term agenda of exposing my brain to as many people as possible. If your current job does not allow you the flexibility of the freedom to pursue your alternate goal, then you’re just another drone in the Corporation that isn’t really benefiting you beyond your paycheck. In my opinion this is a crime. Tazz Daddy Enterprises specializes in making things happen. Whether it’s a seminar, a motivational video, or a book I’ve written, I strive to show people that the impossible is attainable with dedication and hard work for oneself.

BOTG: Your radio show and alternative media hub, TazzDaddy has been awarded many times. We’ve got to ask, what is your work ethic?

TD: I was homeless and broke in 2009, due to a lot of horrible circumstances that I wasn’t prepared for. God saw fit to give me another chance at life. I learned the game. I realized that my fate and my destiny was mine to control. I work hard now, while I’m young, so by the time I reach 40, I’ll never have to work again. My day starts at 3 am and doesn’t end until about 8. I’m either running my businesses, or I’m running Social Media for Clear Channel. The Tazz Daddy brand stands for excellence, so I have to make sure that I protect the brand while still giving people the quality Game they’ve come to expect from me.

BOTG:We noticed that you are clued to the Game, what do you think of the interaction of men and women today?

TD: I think that there are a lot of men who are afraid of being men because they are constantly emasculated by society. We have a generation of women who are taught that they don’t need us for anything. We have to stop getting our advice from Oprah and Dr. Phil and our bitter mothers who don’t have their stuff together and start soaking up this game from people like Tariq Nasheed, Flyness, and myself.

BOTG: Tell us about your novel ‘The Great Sexpectations of Atlas Riley’ and where we can get it?

TD: It’s a coming of age tale about a man who is trying to find himself. Unfortunately he happens to get into one awful relationship after another without being equipped with Game. It’s a great tale of what not to do. You can order it from Amazon.com or BN.com or wherever books are sold.

BOTG: What influenced you to write it and call it that?

TD: I wrote it when I was in Tennessee. The reading comprehension level among my young male listeners was at an all-time low so I gave them something that they would enjoy reading. Little did I know that women would enjoy it so much! The book sold quite a bit when it was first released and still does pretty good numbers today.

BOTG: When approaching a woman, what is the first thing a man must do?

TD: Science says that there are 2 animals that can smell fear: Dogs and Bees. They forgot WOMEN! A man must be confident BEFORE he even thinks about approaching a woman. Men must feel confidence flowing through them. They must have a total sense of who they are. Then and only then, can they be truly successful in the Game.

BOTG: Upon approaching a woman, what is the first thing you usually say?

TD: I usually observe for a second, and say something based upon my observations.

BOTG: Give your definition of a nice guy.

A moment with Royal Flyness

BOTG: What do you think of the feminist movement?

RF: While the Feminist Movement has its rightful place in history (beginning centuries ago), many in the present day have confused its original intentions and are using it to fulfil their own agendas.

Centuries ago, the movement began as an earnest effort to seek social, political, and economic justice. It was revitalized in the 60’s and took on a lot of the same principles. In some pockets, this effort continues into the present day. However, too many women who profess to be “feminists”, are bitter and jaded with respect to manhood, and us it as a platform air their resentments.

BOTG:How did the name the Royal Flyness come about?

RF: After gaining some confidence and “swagger”, a few women would say that I acted as if I was “royalty”. One woman in particular would call me “Your Royal Highness”. I simply remixed “Highness” into “Flyness”.

BOTG: What do you think of the interaction of men and women today?

RF: It’s a sad state of affairs. The majority of men and women just aren’t on the same page. There are things both genders could improve upon. A major problem with men is that they need to be more honest about their intentions—namely admitting when they only want physical relationships. On the other hand, women need to do a better job of being who they wish to attract. There are way too many women with foul attitudes and in poor health who feel deserving of a prince.

BOTG: When approaching a woman online, what is the first thing a man must do?

RF: The first thing a man must do when preparing to do some “online mackin” is to address his profile. Crisp photos and brief-yet intriguing bio or statement is a good start.

BOTG: Could you use this same approach online, offline?

RF: Absolutely. In each of my books, I discuss appearance (in photos), conversation techniques, and overall style. Each of these elements will help you off the net as well. For example, I used to be horrific with women back in the day. Around age 16 and 17, I was shy and awkward with women which is why I turned to online dating. However, once I got it down, I had no problems kickin’ it with women in person.

BOTG: Would you say that it’s harder to get women online than offline? If so why?

RF: This depends on the person and the situation. It also depends on the lady that’s being approached. In general, successfully approaching and meeting a woman in the club is more difficult, given the amount of flossin’, frontin’, trickin’, and simpin’ everywhere. Yet, meeting a woman online can also be tough when she’s being bombarded with brown-nosing men. Both forms of dating have their nuances.

BOTG: Give your definition of a nice guy.

RF: Me. I think I’m nice…most of the time.

BOTG: Is it good to be nice?

A moment with D.J Harmon

BOTG: What makes you a certified Mack?

DH:What makes me a mack is the fact that I am a mission to master the game of life through knowledge and understanding. I strive to analyze, understand and manipulate every aspect of life so that I will be in control as much as I possibly can. I know what to say and when to say it, because I understand who I am saying it to.

BOTG: When did you know that you were truly full-fledged Mack?

DH:I can’t think of any one point that it just clicked in my mind that I’d hit the level of a mack. I can pinpoint when my journey began, however, and that would be the first time I really got played by a female. At that moment, I was a destined to be a mack because I decided to stop being a square.

BOTG: What made you want to teach or spit game?

DH:I have always been, and will always be, a student of the game. I’m on a constant quest to learn as much as I possibly can about the game and women. A wise man once told me that the best way to learn something is to teach it. Spitting game comes natural.

BOTG: What do you think of the interaction of men and women today?

DH:The interactions between men and women today are completely unbalanced. Somewhere along the line, chivalry transcended everything that it should have been and turned into the axiom that men should kiss a woman’s behind at all times. For the majority of social interactions, women wield the power because men surrender it. A man puts in his bid, and a woman chooses whether or not she will give him the time of day.

BOTG: When approaching a woman, what is the first thing a man must do?

DH:The first thing a man must do when approaching a woman is to strategize. A man should have a plan of action when stepping to a woman, if possible. He should observe whatever he can about her in order to put himself in the greatest position possible to end up successful.

BOTG: Upon approaching a woman, what is the first thing you usually say?

DH:It really depends on the situation. It could be no more than a simple “Hello. How are you? My name is D.J.” If I note something interesting about her, what she’s doing, or what’s going on around us, I may comment about that before making an introduction.

BOTG: Give your definition of a nice guy.

DH:I think there are two separate definitions of a ‘nice guy’. There is the nice guy that you don’t want to be and there’s the nice guy that you do want to be. The one that you don’t want to be is a pushover. He’s a punk. He allows women to control and run over him and he has no backbone or sense of masculinity. The nice guy that you do want to be is respectful, grounded, and reasonably accommodating.

BOTG: Is it good to be nice?

DH:It is good to be nice. It isn’t good to be a pushover.

BOTG: Tell us about your book ‘ The Mack Mentality; Dating & Survival Principles For The Modern Day Mack’

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DH:The book is something I’m really proud about because I think it is necessary for the world that we’re in today. The dating game really is a mess. The book is meant to restore balance by empowering men with knowledge and game. Inside the book are 32 principles that men should abide by to keep the upper hand in their dealings with women.

This book isn’t about how to be a player and it doesn’t contain a bunch of lame pick up lines that the squares use. This book is about giving men the confidence, attitude and understanding so he will not need to use lines. The Mack Mentality is about controlling and manipulating minds.

BOTG: What influenced you to write the book?

A moment with Janks Morton

BOTG: What made you begin the quest and mission, What Black Men Think?

JB: About five years ago on C-SPAN Book TV, Juan Williams and Michael Eric Dyson were debating over Bill Cosby’s commentary at the 50th anniversary of the Brown vs. Board of Education NAACP celebration. During their debate Mr. Williams blurted out a statistic that 70% of black children are born out of wedlock, and from clinical pharmacology background, I have been trained to never trust anyone who quotes a statistic that ends in “five” or “zero”..i.e. 50%, 25% (statistically significant sample sizes and representative sampling seldom if ever yields results in these increments/ five and zero are typically the unsubstantiated non-scientific claims of the uninformed).

I immediately went to the CENSUS Bureau to refute this claim, however to my surprise; the number was actually 69.7%. I was astonished and taken aback because I did not know this, and from what I know, and challenge the social ill that our community faces, can mostly be traced back to the absence of two parent homes (regardless of Socio-Economic status).

BOTG: What would you say makes you qualified to be heard and for this movement to be followed?

JB: I do not accept the self-delusional title of head or leader for any movement. It’s inauthentic and disingenuous for any person or persons to speak on behalf of an entire group, call Jesse or Al, and they can address that question from a “leader of the black community” perspective.

BOTG: When did you begin to take this seriously? I mean when was the last straw?

JB: I sat with my barber one day and asked him about the women who came to the beauty salon next door. I asked of 10 women who walk through that door with children, how many do you think are married…his answer: maybe 1, if that. At that point I realized that a conversation needed to be had inside our community, and really start to re-focus our lens on this underlying pathology to most of our problems today.

BOTG: It is obvious that you do a lot of research, personally, finding out that there were more black men in university than prison in America, shocked and surprised us, why do you think other statistics say otherwise?

JB: The other statistics don’t really say otherwise, other organizations and people with a specific agenda twist and manipulate data in order to serve their agenda.

Most leaders spend time trying to get others to think highly of them, when instead they should try to get their people to think more highly of themselves.~ Booker T. Washington

There are people and principalities that have a vested interest in and are compensated to misinform you…so that they can mismanage you.~Janks Morton

BOTG: Are the statistics you found out only based on and for America?

JB: Absolutely, while I have worked with people of African descent all around the world and the challenges are very similar, the US data sets are what resonate with most.

A moment with Kevin Ferere

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BOTG: What do you think of the feminist movement?

KF: It was a movement that meant well for it’s era and simply got out of hand; because it fed into the selfish side of our human nature. Power can never be trusted.

BOTG: What do you think of the interaction of men and women today?

KF: It has become more of a sublime, psychological combat zone simply because people don’t know what it is to be honest with themselves and their thoughts and emotions. However, we are in the birthpains of an enlightened era where more people are being educated about each other. Which will inevitably pay dividends as we reach a plateau of cordiality with time.

BOTG: Tell us about your book ‘Leave the Fairy Tale Up To Disney; The Reality Of Dating.’

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KF: It was a “vomiting” of thoughts festering in the back of my mind since I was old enough to date. I’ve sat back and watched too many people practically ruin their lives simply because of a relationship. No one was telling these people the things I had to tell them, and if they were telling them anything, it was sugarcoated and dumbed down.

BOTG: What influenced you to write this book?

A moment with Lebrandon Owens aka Mr Stylistic aka The Monster

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A Moment with Mr Locario

BOTG: What makes you a certified relationship advisor?

ML:Well I’ve studied the game and I’ve been a dating coach for a few of years now and I’ve helped thousand of people perfect their dating game. I have a couple of books out, two dvd’s, and free audio seminars on my sites MrLocario and Ilooksexynaked

BOTG: When did you know that you were able to give advice on attracting women?

When I was young I was terrible with women. I would be scared to talk to women, I didn’t know what to say and I was always scared of getting rejected. After working on myself, studying the game and understanding women a little better I began to get women left and right. I knew I was able to give advice on attracting women when I first started to help my close friends with women they were trying to get with. Then I started to make videos and posted them up online. In my videos I was teaching men how to approach women, the easiest way to get a girl back to your place, how get over your fear of talking to women etc. and then I would get a lot of emails from guys telling me how much my advice helped them.

BOTG: What made you want to teach or spit game?

I felt like there are a lot of men and women who are unhappy in their relationships because they are getting a lot of false information from the media or just society in general. Like for example most women believe that it is always the job of a man to approach them. Like for example in my book “It’s Your Fault You’re Single: Tips on Finding Mr. Right”. I tell women that they should be more assertive when it comes to interacting with men. I tell them that they don’t have to wait for a man to come up to them and talk to them.

They can approach men and get the type of men that they want. Also In my new book and movie I have coming out for men called “How to Have Sex with 2 Women A Day” I teach men how to have more options in their dating life by having an abundance of women to choose from. I basically teach men and women that they can have whatever they want in love and in life by being honest with themselves, being fearless and going after what they want.

BOTG: What do you think of the interaction between men and women today?

I feel there is a lot of miscommunication. Men and women seem to not understand each other. I feel like we don’t respect each other’s differences. I feel like women need to come to terms with the fact that there are a lot of men who are going to have a very high sex drive and who are going to want to be with more than one woman sexually. Men need to come to terms with the fact that women are sometimes going to be emotional even to the point where they might do things that don’t make sense or might seem irrational.

BOTG: When approaching a woman, what is the first thing a man should do?

The first thing a man should do when he approaches a woman that he might be interested in is that he should assume that she wants to fuck him. I have a saying that goes “Expect Affection but Accept Rejection” so what that means is that you should always expect that every woman you approach will want to be with you. That is the state of mind that you need to be in. When you are in that state of mind you will be giving off a more confident and positive vibe when you talk to these females. What a lot of guys do is approach a woman and they think to herself “I hope she likes me” or “I hope I get her number”.

You should “expect” that she is already going to like you and that she will give you her number. When I say “Accept Rejection” what I mean is that you have to know that at the end of the day you will not get with every woman you approach. There are times that you will get rejected. You should not take that personally or let that get you down. You just have to move on the next chick.

BOTG: Upon approaching a woman, what is the first thing you usually say?

I usually talk about something happening in the situation to get into a conversation with her. I just make it seem natural. Some guys will go up to a woman and she will know that he is trying to pick her up because he is saying the usual “hey what’s up, what’s your name, where your from etc. Since women get hit on all the time they usually have their guard up so the first thing I say to them will be something that will make it look like I’m not necessarily trying to pick her up. So for example if I was in a train station and a train was taking a long time to get there I would walk up to a girl and say “Hey how long have you been waiting for the train”.

So we will start talking about the train and then I would move into talking about other things and then before I leave her I would exchange numbers with her.

BOTG: Give your definition of a nice guy.

Nice guys are guys that think they have to act nice and be on their best behavior in order for a woman to like them. Being a nice guy is really all an act because no one is nice all of the time.

BOTG: Is it good to be nice?

You may be a nice guy in general like you might be a person that respects other people, you are polite, you help old ladies cross the street etc. but when these types of guys get around women they are not being themselves. For example a guy might go out on a date with a woman and will agree with everything she says even though deep down he doesn’t agree with what she is talking about. He will do this because he thinks that agreeing with her will make her like him more and he thinks that being in agreement with her is a nice thing to do. So he is being nice instead of being himself. I talk about this in my book “The Magnificent 10 Crucial Dating Tips for Men”. So there is nothing wrong with being nice but what you should really be is yourself because what genuinely makes you a nice guy will come out and it wont seems like a nice guy act.

BOTG: Tell us about your books “The Magnificent 10 Crucial Dating Tips for Men and It’s Your Fault You’re Single: Tips on Finding Mr. Right”.

The Magnificent 10 Crucial Dating Tips for Men is a book with 10 tips that all men should know when it comes to dating. It’s Your Fault You’re Single: Tips on Finding Mr. Right is a book that helps women learn how to take responsibility for finding the right man for themselves. Both of these books are available on my site MrLocario

BOTG: Why do you think most women want thugs?

I don’t necessarily think that most women want thugs. I just think that most women want excitement in their lives. The problem is that there are a lot of men and women that think that in order for a man to be interesting or exciting or have swagger (I hate that word) that he has to be a thug or have thuggish tendencies. There is an old saying that women want “a tupac with a degree”. Women will say they want a thug who is smart.

The thing is you can’t have it both ways because if you were smart you wouldn’t be a thug. Any dude that is smart knows that being a thug is stupid. So women will end up dealing with real thugs and be caught up in some nonsense or a guy who isn’t a real thug will try to pretend to be a thug just to impress some chick and then he will be caught up in some nonsense.

BOTG: Don’t you worry about women listening to your show or reading the book for men?

No. I love when women read or listen to what I tell men on my Blog Talk Radio Show. It gives them insight to how men really think and act. Even if it offends them I think it’s a good thing because it is taking them out of their comfort zone. The reason why a lot of women don’t get what they want in their love life is because they don’t take the time to understand men. So if these ladies want to be on top of their game they should be paying attention to how men think.

BOTG: Since the show started how have things changed for you.

I’ve just been getting a lot of emails and people hitting me up on facebook telling me how much they appreciate the information that I put out there. It also has been getting a lot more new listeners since I have video clips of the show circulating around the Internet.

BOTG: Would you say you stumbled on Macking by Accident?

I was just always interested in learning more about myself and how I interacted with other people. I was always reading up on things and observing my surroundings so I guess I wouldn’t say it was by accident.

BOTG: What are your views on Marriage? Do you ever plan on getting married?

I feel like marriage would be a beautiful thing if it were really about love. Most people will tell you that it is about love and what I would say to that is “why is it illegal for gay people to get married in some states if marriage is about love”. I’m assuming if you have a gay couple that has been together for a number of years they most likely would be in love so why can’t they get married? Then some people will say that marriage is supposed to be between a man and woman and then they will bring religion into it and a whole bunch of other nonsense.

So for me personally I honestly don’t think I would want to get married. I have sort of a love/hate relationship with the idea of marriage. Also the fact that marriage benefits the woman more than the man I don’t really see that much benefit in it for me.

BOTG: Describe confidence. This is something a man has to have, tell us how a man can generate it.

Confidence is all about knowing your true self and understanding that you are capable of doing any and everything that you ever wanted to do in life no matter what anyone says. You have to be sure of yourself. For example, If you wanted to go see a movie you would walk into a movie theater because you are confident in the fact that the movie theaters will have a movie for you to watch. You are sure that the theater will provide you with what you need and you believe that it will happen.

You never doubt if a movie theater will have movies. When was the last time you went to a movie theater lobby and said yourself “ Hey I’m not sure if they show movies in this movie theater”. The same way you are sure that a movie theater will show movies is the same way you have to be sure about yourself. You have to be so sure about yourself to the point were you would never doubt yourself. Doubting yourself will sound as stupid as doubting that a movie theater would show movies. Your confidence comes from knowing that whatever you want to do can be accomplished and anyone telling you that you can’t will not throw you off because you know that what you want can and will happen.

BOTG: What do you think that men are doing wrong with women these days? I mean if you believe that something is wrong?

I think too many men are being captain save a ho’s and putting the pussy on a pedestal. They are treating women like they can do no wrong. Men are giving women special treatment and a woman should not get special treatment just because she has a vagina. A man does not need to be opening doors for a woman, buying her drinks at the bar, paying her rent etc.

If a girl is your main chick and y’all been together for a while then there are certain things that you can do for her but most guys will go on a first date with a chick and show up with flowers and candy. Men need to stop that.

BOTG: How should a man deal with fear and overcome it?

All a man needs to know is that fear is an illusion and it’s all in your head. You usually start to fear because you doubt yourself and you don’t trust that you can do what you want to get done. Again if you are confident in yourself then you will remove all doubt and you will have nothing to fear. This goes for dealing with women and for life in general.

BOTG: Would you say the game is mostly about looks?

I don’t think you have to the be the best-looking person but I think you should always try to look your best. So you should just try to keep yourself looking clean and smelling good and just take care of your body overall.

BOTG: What are your thoughts on male empowerment groups like this one?

I think male empowerment groups are necessary in today’s society especially since we live in such a feminized society. I think Brotherhood of the game is essential to male empowerment because you guys provide the type of relevant information that needs to be heard.

BOTG: What is the most important thing to remember about Mr. Locario?

The most important thing to remember about me is that I represent honesty, positivity and discovering the truth about yourself and as a result, finding what you want out of life and then going after it.

BOTG: Would you say that to get and maintain a woman, a man has to be somewhat heartless?

I don’t think a man has to do anything but be exactly how he wants to be and he will attract women that will want to be down with his program. A man that has to be heartless to maintain a woman is most likely dealing with a woman who has low self esteem and is so insecure that she feels that she deserves that kind of treatment. You have to ask yourself though is that the type of woman you want to be with. Those type of women you might want to hit it a couple of times but I don’t think you would want a girl like that to be your main chick.

You really don’t have to be heartless to maintain a chick. I’m not saying be Mr. Nice Guy but all you really have to do is be yourself and you will be able to get and maintain a woman who appreciates what you have to offer. Me personally I don’t like drama and I don’t like to argue and raise my voice and be an asshole to my girl. I’ve been with same girl for the past four years and I’ve never had to act like a jerk to keep her.

BOTG: Would you say all women are the same?

I would never say all women are the same. We are all individuals but I think that there are a lot of women that share similar characteristics just like men share similar characteristics but at the end of the day we have our differences.

BOTG: Has a woman ever said no when you approach and then changed her mind?

Yeah I remember my first girlfriend that I had when I was in high school rejected me three times when I tried to get with her. Then a week after the third time she rejected me she called me and told me that she wanted to be with me.

BOTG:What do you think a woman needs and wants from a man?

I really believe that women need guidance and leadership from men. A lot of women won’t admit this and will think it sounds chauvinistic but I really think that this is what women want. Like there will be times when a woman will be very emotional and won’t be thinking rationally. So there might be some thing that she does that might not make sense logically because she is reacting off of emotion. Generally speaking men in most cases men will put logic ahead of their emotions. So if a man is with a woman and she is getting very emotional and being irrational then she will need him to step in and lead her in the right direction.

Like for example I saw a big guy who was the size of a professional wrestler bump in to a couple on the street by mistake and stepped on the woman’s shoe. The woman got upset and got in this big guys face and started to act like she wanted to fight him. Her boyfriend quickly pulled her away and apologized to the guy who looked like he was two seconds away from knocking her and him out. Her boyfriend had to guide her in the right direction by thinking logically by saying to himself “my girl should not be up in this guys face because he would kick both of our asses”. His girl was reacting based off of emotion.

BOTG: What is the difference between a nice guy and a Mack?

A Mack knows that a woman needs to prove herself to him and a nice guy thinks that he needs to prove himself to a woman.

BOTG: Are you going to write any more books are do any more lectures?

Right now I’m finishing up my third book titled “How to Have Sex with 2 Women a Day” which is a “How to” book for men which will be out early 2011 and I have a movie coming out that I wrote, directed and produced with the same title as the book. I also will be doing a number of different lectures this year. You can find out more information about my lectures, my new book, movie and more at MrLocario

BOTG: Thank you.

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A Moment with Tha BossMack TopSoil

Before I answer one question in this interview I would like to thank Tha Brotherhood of The Game for even considering me worthy of examination and discussion. I would like to further state that I am no Expert or Master of this thing we call “Tha Game”, I am still very much a student of tha Game and I am always willing to learn and improve myself. One thing about tha Game I am certain of and that is my ignorance of it. There are many individuals who claim to possess great knowledge of tha Game, I am one of tha individuals in pursuit of knowledge that I do not yet possess. I am tha reverse of wise, I can only tell you of my experiences, The Brotherhood has put the following questions to me, I only hope you do not laugh as I respond as best as I can.

BOTG: What makes you a certified Mack?

BT: I think being a Mack is an understanding of Human Behavior distilled into rules and regulations that one chooses to live by. These rules and regulations are woven into tha tapestry of my entire being, So thus I live by those rules on an unconscious level.

BOTG: When did you know that you were truly full-fledged Mack?

BT: Realistically, I started to abide by strict rules and regulations back in 1995. I started functioning on an unconscious level by 1997.

BOTG: What made you want to teach or spit game?

BT: Once I began to seriously “Cop and Blow” Bitches on a regular basis, I started compiling stories and adventures. When I use to tell Niggas about this Bitch or that Bitch, Niggas would be riveted to my narrative. Also for an extended period of time in tha 90’s I was 100% in tha “Life” meaning, I paid all of my bills from illegal business. I knew I had experienced things many people would find difficult to understand and I had always remembered what one of my homies told me, Tha Homie Bone (Training Day & Bastards Of The Party) who’s from Athens Park Piru, Bone told me “All tha shit that we do in tha hood, it’s everyday bullshit to us, cause we are here everyday, But when you take what we experience and take it away from here, that shit is Entertainment”. So one day I knew I would write Books, It just so happens that I found out about blogs.

I am working on my first two books right now, I should be finished before tha end of this year. I am going to drop “Tha 13 Laws Of Tha BossMack TopSoil” and a collection of Short Stories, I haven’t decided on a name for that.

I must admit with regards to writing, I don’t enjoy writing tha “How to Books” if you can understand me. I like to write stories and from within those stories I like for my readers to pull tha Game “Out” for themselves. “Tha 13 Laws” is kind of like a “how to” book but I back everything up with stories to illustrate ideas and concepts.

I am also going to write a Novel and more short stories.

I felt like no matter what, Niggas in these streets out here know who I am, Niggas know my track record and Niggas observed me Manage Bitches in Real Life.

As I lived tha life of a Street Nigga I just tried to remember everything I saw and experienced, As If I knew I was there as more an observer than a participant. I always had a feeling that I was tha only Nigga that could tell tha story of me an my peoples, kind like that dude with one eye in “300” that got sent back to tell tha story. All of tha Niggas I ran with are Deceased or in Prison , Tha few that are left on tha streets live like recluses.

Another thing, There is an aspect of tha Game I want to expose and hold up to tha light for examination that is absolutely Beautiful, It that part of tha Game where a Nigga achieves such greatness and beauty in his Bitches eyes that in that moment he can do no wrong, it’s a sacred place, very transient. This place is precarious, for it is in this place that people either decide to build up people or destroy them, most choose tha latter.

BOTG: What do you think of the interaction of men and women today?

BT: This can be tha subject of a comprehensive essay, I will however try to truncate my response a bit. Also a warning, I am not that intelligent, so hopefully I will be able to articulate my thoughts clearly and not offend those of you reading this whom are superior to myself in cleverness.

At this moment in time this is a White Man’s world that we live in here in America and in tha United Kingdom and that determines the interaction of men and women today in my opinion.

Tha following analogy I borrowed from somewhere, I can’t remember where because I am forgetful at times, so if it sounds familiar that is tha reason. Now I shall explain myself, I view our society like a Great Phallic Symbol, Like tha Washington Monument with tha White Man at tha apex, African American Men are at tha Bottom, But African American women have been elevated to a status higher than tha African American Man and they know it. In this Great Phallus or hierarchy per say, Tha White Woman is below tha White Man, but higher than tha African American Woman.

As this dynamic plays out in tha work place and life in general, this Hierarchy puts pressure on everyone below the White Man in this Phallus. The White Woman continues to fight tha White Man for respect, African American Women feel a sense of superiority over tha White Woman in certain respects because every White Man wants to Fuck an African American Woman. Now I don’t want to omit other races from this discussion, but I feel these two races represent the extreme opposite of each other, So I want to hold them up to tha light for examination.

Since African American women get preferred treatment by White Men in the workplace, More African American Women have jobs than African American Men. This Dynamic has been in place since Slavery and this turns African American families Matriarchal instead of Patriarchal like White Families. Thus tha relations between African American Women and Men are severely strained. This Manifests into Niggas having to prove they are Super Niggas to African American Bitches in order to get respected.

Tha Good News is if you are Super Nigga, You can get that Respect and Homage from a Bitch, But only after a Nigga proves he is a great man. White Men don’t have tha same burden of proof as Niggas, not to tha same degree.

BOTG: When approaching a woman, what is the first thing a man must do?

BT: I usually stalk bitches myself, meaning I observe a Bitch from a distance and try to read her. I take in tha details, I look at Clothing, Hair Style, Mannerisms etc. When I do this I am very covert, I work my way into tha Bitches vicinity and go from there.

BOTG: Upon approaching a woman, what is the first thing you usually say?

BT: I smile and say “Hello”, then give a bitch a very clever compliment, now I can’t tell you exactly what to say here as a compliment because it changes from Bitch to Bitch, as each Bitch is unique.

BOTG: Give your definition of a nice guy.

BT: A guy that puts a Bitch on a pedestal and tries to make a bitch happy by doing whatever she says to do.

BOTG: Is it good to be nice?

BT: Yes and No. You cannot be all Asshole to a Bitch and you Cannot be all Nice Guy to a Bitch, there is a balance. This is why I say the government of a stable is a Meritocracy, It’s always important to acknowledge tha good things a Bitch does for you. Just like its good to Check A Bitch when she’s wrong, Bitches are like Kids, There must be Punishment and Rewards. Let me make myself clear, If a Bitch is cooking Bomb as$ Meals for you every night, a Bitch should be rewarded at some point and time. If a Bitch nursed you back to health after you were fucked up in a car accident, a bitch needs to be rewarded. Tha thing about punishment and reward is you must communicate what you are doing and why you are doing it clearly to a bitch so she understands and shit is recognized. For instance if a bitch has been in your corner strong for a year or two, bringing oblation to tha table, treating a nigga like royalty and what not and you decide to treat bitch to a vacation, you let her know, you say “I am taking you on this Vacation because you been holding a Nigga down, you is real and you deserve this”.

BOTG: Why do you think most women want thugs?

BT: I think all Bitches respond to Masculinity and Thugs represent that in a profound sense.

BOTG: Don’t you worry about women listening to your show?

BT: Now thats an interesting question, I know that I have more Bitches as listeners than Niggas. I also know there are some decent, church going bitches with good jobs and families that got two or three episodes of “BossMacknosis Live” in their Ipod. Those Bitches bump my shit and they laughing like a Muthafucka, but knowing in between all of tha “Nigga” this and “Bitch” that, that Nigga BossMack is telling tha truth.

BOTG: Since you started the show, how has things changed for you?

BT: One of tha most bizarre things that has happened to me is tha response from some of my close homies, Niggas I grew up with who approach me for advice on their relationships. Niggas be like “JimC” I need to talk to “Tha BossMack TopSoil” right now I got issues with with a Bitch lol.

A startling thing I learned about doing my shows, I think there are people actually addicted to listening to my shows and I am addicted to MAKING tha shows. Tha Creation of podcast shows has become an art form to me that I take very serious. If you notice, I am always trying to do better shows and give tha listeners some unexpected shit.

BOTG: Why do you refer to women as b*tches? Are they all b*tches?

BT: When I was very small, like 6 or 7 years old, My Mother brought home a Richard Pryor record, I think it was “That Nigger’s Crazy”. My mother put that record on while her and her homegurls sat around in tha living room smoking reefer and drinking Crown Royal with ice. They didn’t even realize I was sitting on tha Green Shag carpet on tha side of tha couch. Now I cannot tell you how I understood what Richard Pryor was saying, but I did, I understood what he was saying about everything and I laughed hard, I made it to tha part where Mud Bone got slapped by his Bosses Fiancee after he introduced himself. I laughed so hard everyone got quite and they noticed I was in tha room, My Moms popped me in tha back tha head and kicked me out. Whenever she was gone I listened to that record.

After that I was fascinated with tha emotional response from Bitches when I called them “Bitches”, I always waited for opportunities to say that shit to a Bitch, I know that sounds stupid. After college I didn’t become a tax paying citizen, I tried to be in tha Music industry and then ultimately I ended up in tha “Life” so to speak, In which I basically sold pounds of weed in other States. I never entered tha square world and in my world tha language I used is what you hear when you hear me speak when I’m doing my shows or videos, or what you read when you read my blog, to me it’s a language of tha “Truth”.

Tha words “Bitch, Nigga and Muthafucka” are tha foundation of my communication, those three words contain more energy than any other word in tha English language except Jesus and God.

Ultimately, I mean no harm by using tha word “Bitch”.

BOTG: Would you say that you stumbled on Macking by accident?

BT: I think for me it seemed more like Macking was tha best thing for me. I use to believe that that one bitch was tha best policy while I was growing up, but realistically I never seen anyone happy that was in that type of relationship. I saw my Grandfather as Nigga with money and flash, he changed Cadillac’s every year and he had Bitches and all tha Bitches kissed his Ass. My uncle was tha same way, they were like that and they were Happy.

As I got older and began to deal with bitches I realized that I was just different than otha niggas, there was no way I could just settle with one bitch.

BOTG: What are your views on marriage? Ever plan on getting married?

BT: I seriously doubt it, It seems like a beautiful concept, but I think I’m a be a Nigga with several babymama’s and I’ll just take care of everybody, But Never say Never.

BOTG: Is there a meaning behind the chimpanzee and the cross and bones that you got up as your symbol?

BT: When I set out to “Brand” Tha BossMack experience I decided I need to sum everything behind an Animal Image, an Abstract image of an animal I know effects people on a sub-conscious level, that and different colors. I was gonna use a Lion and then a Mandrill, but I settled on tha one I am using because thats what I am to everyone “A Dangerous Monkey”. No doubt I have been influenced by tha low-brow art movement as depicted in magazines like Juxtapoz Magazine and sometimes Complex Magazine, I am also influenced by alot of stuff going on in Japan. My logo effects people on many levels, Tha Monkey is what society thinks of “Niggas”, Tha facial expression “Serious yet Resolute”, Tha Cigar for tha “Boss Status”, Without tha Cigar mouth open “Tha Game Being Expectorated”, Tha Cross Bones “Tha Monkey is Dangerous”.

BOTG: Describe confidence. This is something a man has to have, tell us how a man can generate it.

BT: No doubt there are different definitions of this word, the one I think you want me speak on is the “Confidence” thats a kind of “Bravery”. I think the Confidence necessary to approach women is a consciousness of tha belief that you can and will convince a Woman that it is beneficial to her to have you in her life. I would say tha same techniques are used to capture good friends.

Confidence can be gained in many was, some instant and some take years. For instance, A Nigga can gain extreme Confidence from purchasing a New Range Rover on Big Wheels. A Nigga can gain extreme Confidence from purchasing a new Condo. Or a Nigga can gain confidence by working out and getting into great shape.

Tha deepest and strongest form of Confidence comes from a deep inner conviction and an extreme belief in yourself that has to be utterly unbreakable from outside sources.

BOTG: What do you think men are doing wrong with women these days? I mean if you believe that something is wrong.

BT: I think most Niggas are extremely thursty and put Bitches on pedestals to quick without properly examining a Bitch and testing her to make sure she’s worthy of pedestal reverence.

BOTG: Would you say that the game is mostly about looks?

BT: In a way it is, But tha Game is Mental and not tangible. Niggas with Extremely Good looks Mack or Pimp by accident, meaning they get away with violating certain rules in tha Game and still pull alot of bitches. When I say violate rules I mean shit like “Fucking to Much”, “Having Weaknesses Like Drug Habits”, “Confining In Bitches” Etcs. But what happens with extremely Good Looks is this, they fade, especially without self discipline.

BOTG: What are your thoughts on male empowerment groups like this one?

BT: I think they are good, Niggas need a place where they can always go to get new ideas.

BOTG: What is the most important thing to remember about BossMack TopSoil ?

BT: That I’m a Real Nigga to tha Fullest. I remember one of my Ex-Bitches told me that, A Hood Bitch to tha core, Yet a Bitch with a Good Soul, She told me verbatim “James, You are tha Reallest Nigga I ever Knew” I was really touched by that. I know that sounds ignorant but I’m being real.

BOTG: Would you say that to get and maintain a woman, a man has to be somewhat heartless?

BT: Yes, There is a necessity to be dispiteous at times.

BOTG: Would you say all women are the same?

BT: No, There are people who are Good and people who are Bad. Each Bitch a nigga deals with must be carefully examined to determine her true character.

BOTG: Has a woman ever said no when you approached and then changed her mind?

BT: Yes, that has happened on more than one occasion and it has also been reversed where I actually pulled a Bitch and then lost tha bitch moments later. Usually when I fall up into a event, I might spot two of three bitches that touch my soul for some reason I cannot explain. Then I subtly stalk tha Bitches for a while, See who they are with, what they are drinking, watch there mannerisms etc. Then I pick one to talk to, then I work my way to tha others in a lowkey type of way because as you know Bitches are really watching YOU also, checking for your thurstyness. One particular evening at this club called Zanzibar’s in Santa Monica I did that, I spoke to a Bitch, tha conversation was cool but she told me she didn’t want to exchange information. I was cool with that, Now on this particular night there wasn’t to many bitches in there I was feeling, so I just nursed my Absolute Vodka Dirty Martini and enjoyed tha music without attempting to talk to any other Bitches, then later when I was about to leave, that same Bitch I guess had been keeping an eye on me tha whole entire night, decided to give me her number before she left lol.

BOTG: What do you think women need or want mostly from a man?

BT: She needs a Nigga to be a Man for Real in tha Realest Sense of that word. This is why tha Multi-Million Dollar Super Nigga outside of tha Law has tha Greatest influence over all Bitches even if tha Bitches know he’s a Criminal. Tha respect a Bitch gives a Nigga who appears Absolutely Rich outside of tha White World is second to tha respect a Bitch gives Jesus and God. You can start from tha position of tha Multi-Millionaire Criminal Super Nigga down to a Nigga that at least has his own apartment with no Car.
A Bitch Needs a Nigga to be a Man, Autonomy is tha Beginning.

BOTG: What is the difference between a nice guy and a Mack?

BT: If a Bitch breaks certain rules with me I will discipline a Bitch without hesitation on tha spot, nice guys don’t do that because they are scared of losing tha bitch. Here’s an example, I remember a Bitch that belonged to me at tha time wanted to come and see me with her friend, they came by, I was in a Good mood so I broke out tha Bong, being a good host I packed tha bowl and gave tha bong to my bitches friend to hit it first. This just pissed my Bitch off to tha fullest, so she proceeded to to start talking shit which caught me off guard on multiple levels, Tha first level: This Bitch was talking shit to me IN FRONT of her homegurl, Tha Second Level: I was being a Nice Nigga to these Bitches so I was really offend for even letting a bitch hit tha Kush, Tha Third Level: This was some she I had never seen from this Bitch so this was her testing me to see what kind of Nigga I was.

After tha Bitch finished her rant which ended with “Nigga I Hate you right now” I looked at her homegurl and said “Tracy, I think your Friend is ready to Go Home, why don’t you take her” you should have seen that overly pretty over-confident bitch get up and kick herself out lol. That Bitch was calling me begging for forgiveness in 1/2 hour, I made that bitch wait 2 days before I even spoke to her.

BOTG: Are you ever going to do lectures?

BT: I don’t know, If I am fortunate enough to get invited to do one I’ll do it. I don’t know how that is going to go cause I don’t really plan on writing “How To Mack” books.

BOTG: If not books or lecturers, with a radio channel and clothing line, what’s next for BossMack TopSoil?

BT: Tha Books are coming for sure, I don’t know about tha lectures, but that would be cool to do some shit like that.
As far as tha radio show I think tha next evolution of tha show is to take it to Video, Maybe live audience Jimmy Kimmel style. I have been chopping it up with some folks who no more about that game than me and they think it’s doable. Even now there is a demand to be there when I record tha shows live, alot of times there’s quite a few Niggas and bitches there watching me record tha show.

Tha Clothing line is really starting to gain momentum, I’ve got a feeling that might be tha first thing that goes big for me. Tha shit I have on deck for tha clothing line in tha future is so huge it’s scary, I can’t even really speak on it, But I think Niggas will like what I do.

BOTG: Thank you.

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